tl;dr summary: I'm sorry; I behaved like a jerkface and I feel terrible.
I'm really sorry for snarling at you on DW earlier. I don't know you from Eve, but I'd read your post linked from metafandom and then saw whilst skimming the comments that you'd never actually been to Japan; together these things added up to "Japanophile white girl who's read too many racefail discussions and wants to Have Her Say" because I, um, come across them often to assume they're default.
A friend who's more patient and wiser than me just pointed out that you were not, in fact, a white girl, and I feel terrible. That assumption in itself was privileged and racist, and I apologise for making it. Had I taken the time to click on your profile and figure out you were not the white girl I assumed you to be, I would not have spoken in your space, especially not to demand that you engage with me directly. /o\
I also apologise that my original comment on Shounen Jump vs Hollywood was worded so poorly that it made you feel uncomfortable: I was really just talking about in-group psychology working within dominant ethnic groups, and not at all saying, "Japanese xenophobia is real, but that's okay because they're the white people of Japan". I should have expressed myself better and not assumed people would understand what I meant.
Well, thank you, I appreciate the apology, I shouldn't, but it's very rare for someone to apologize.
You are right, it was wrong for you to demand things from me, and you are right, it was racist for you to assume I was white. This still is kinda uncomfortable (I don't know how to respond to the "I thought you were white" thing), but I appreciate the apology, you sounds honest, so thank you.
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la_vie_noire) wrote2010-01-06 04:12 am
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Oh oh, nevermind, I thought of something to ask! *runs off to do so*
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I ANSWERED! <.< <333333
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(Anonymous) 2010-01-08 12:07 am (UTC)(link)I'm really sorry for snarling at you on DW earlier. I don't know you from Eve, but I'd read your post linked from metafandom and then saw whilst skimming the comments that you'd never actually been to Japan; together these things added up to "Japanophile white girl who's read too many racefail discussions and wants to Have Her Say" because I, um, come across them often to assume they're default.
A friend who's more patient and wiser than me just pointed out that you were not, in fact, a white girl, and I feel terrible. That assumption in itself was privileged and racist, and I apologise for making it. Had I taken the time to click on your profile and figure out you were not the white girl I assumed you to be, I would not have spoken in your space, especially not to demand that you engage with me directly. /o\
I also apologise that my original comment on Shounen Jump vs Hollywood was worded so poorly that it made you feel uncomfortable: I was really just talking about in-group psychology working within dominant ethnic groups, and not at all saying, "Japanese xenophobia is real, but that's okay because they're the white people of Japan". I should have expressed myself better and not assumed people would understand what I meant.
Cheers,
f (furiosity)
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You are right, it was wrong for you to demand things from me, and you are right, it was racist for you to assume I was white. This still is kinda uncomfortable (I don't know how to respond to the "I thought you were white" thing), but I appreciate the apology, you sounds honest, so thank you.