*well, maybe she is not exactly saying he is a sexual object, from what I understand Willow is saying Edward is the recipient of Bella's sexual desire and that what he respects is she having that sexual drive. He acts like sex isn't the first thing on his mind and she doesn't have to put that performance of being "sexy" for him.

Oh yes, I understand the part where people argue that he controls her or decides what is good for her.

Again, I haven't read it, and I don't want to put words in anyone's mouth. XP