...you almost made me read a post by Renee, but i dodged that bullet.
Gender is something that is a concern for everyone because we are all disciplined. [...] and even heterosexual cisgender men can quickly find themselves the center of ridicule, the moment they admit they are not he-men.
it's always important to center things back where the discussion belongs, on heterosexual cis men.
and of course, a lot of trans people aren't breaking the gender binary, but trying to live within it. this whole "oh we're all affected by the gender binary, just like trans people!" is a subtle form of trans erasure. -- even though binary thinking on gender sucks, yes, there's obviously more to it than just declaring that If you are a man cooking dinner or a woman using a drill, you are guilty of breaking the gender binary. and thus being cis is just like being trans.
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Gender is something that is a concern for everyone because we are all disciplined. [...] and even heterosexual cisgender men can quickly find themselves the center of ridicule, the moment they admit they are not he-men.
it's always important to center things back where the discussion belongs, on heterosexual cis men.
and of course, a lot of trans people aren't breaking the gender binary, but trying to live within it. this whole "oh we're all affected by the gender binary, just like trans people!" is a subtle form of trans erasure. -- even though binary thinking on gender sucks, yes, there's obviously more to it than just declaring that If you are a man cooking dinner or a woman using a drill, you are guilty of breaking the gender binary. and thus being cis is just like being trans.